The biggest mistake that you can make in a relationship is not being yourself when you first meet people. If a person cannot accept you for who you are, then don't be with/associate with that person.
Say what you mean and mean what you say. Communication is necessary for any relationship. The other person is not a mind reader and cannot know how you feel about anything unless you tell them. Dont expect for the other person to just know when something is wrong. At the same time, make sure that what you are saying has some meaning. Dont say things just to say them. If you do, beware of the consequences. Understand that for the most part, once you say something, you can never take it back. Its already out there so make sure you mean what you are saying.
Trust. This is what a relationship is all about. Think about it. There is no relationship if there is no trust. It doesnt matter what kind of relationship, friendship, co-workers, husband/wife, trust DEFINES a relationship. That being said, you cant date someone and not trust that person. If you are feeling insecure about the relationship, talk about it with your partner. If you still feel insecure about the relationship, then make the choice of dealing with it or getting out.
Related to trust is faith. You need to have faith that the other person in the relationship will be there, have your back, do the right thing and not hurt you. You have to give the person this faith blindly (if you are religious, then you already do it, you have blind faith in God, why not in another human?) and it is that persons to lose. If the other person does something to lose your faith in him/her, then dont beat yourself up for trusting that person, learn from it and move on.
No relationship is perfect. Because the relationship involves two imperfect people, the relationship itself is inherently flawed. Once you understand this, you can see that the key to being in a lasting relationship is dealing with the imperfections. No relationship is easy. You have to be always working at the relationship, no matter how good it may be. Theres always room for improvement.
Finally, leave your past relationships out of your current one. The person standing before you is not the person you were with so dont treat them like it. You chose to be in the relationship, and its not fair to both parties if you are judging a person by your previous experiences. Not all men and women are alike. Because your ex cheated on you, doesnt mean that all your future partners will. If this is your mentality, then you have no business being in a relationship. Clearly, you have not gotten over your past experiences and I cannot not stress how unfair this is for any new relationships. Youre relationship will be doomed from the start.
Ill add new ones later, I have to go to work. Bye.
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